Why?? Because she had no need to be rude to others. She could have simple said, "Excuse, I don't want to dance with you" or "No thank you, I am not in the mood". How hard is that? Its not. But she's a rude person that believes actions like that are warranted when a guy tried to dance with her. Yes...her body. But what happened to treating other the way you want to be treated? Bet that same girl would be upset if she walked up to a guy she thought was cute and he gave her that face. Bet she would have a lot to say about it also lol. But then she will go and continue to do it to others. Why? I feel its an ego and self esteem thing. Just like they say bullies pick on people because they have self esteem issues, I say the same for females like that.
Lets think about this now...later that night or another time...her exact words will be "You should have seen all the guys trying to get at me" or "I have all the guys chasing me and I don't want them". Its phrase and words like these that she uses to fill her mind up with the idea that all guys want her and she can do whatever she likes because he is "Bad".....then on the other hand she could be using it to build herself up. Girls that act like this....I actually want for them to go to guys and it happens to them. I personally do not feed egos. I see a female walking around like she thinks she's "It"....and I just ignore her. Not going to add to her ego at all. That's not my job.
I'm approached many times by females I am not attracted to, don't want for some reason, and even gay guys. What do I do? I hold a conversation and let them down easily. No point in being rude to someone just because they were attracted to you. Especially when we all try to do things to look more appealing to the opposite sex. So if I see a female walking down the street...a guy walks up to her to talk to her....she "Plays him" or is rude for no reason at all.....I don't blame him and won't stop him when he tells her about herself. Won't try to calm him down. And won't do anything but laugh. Even my sister and past girlfriends of mine...I will tell them to be nice and say "No thank you" or something that lets them down without being rude. Because guys will hit females if they are disrespectful. Not saying its right, just saying its reality.
So Ladies, next time a guy tries to talk to you or dance at a party....be nice. Or if he gets on you and start yelling, I will not blame him. Whether family, special female, or close friend. I don't approve of rude behavior that is uncalled for.
I'm gonna have to disagree with you to a degree on if a guy starts yelling/heckling at a female because she gave him the ugh face when he was trying to dance up on her. First of all, shouldn't he be asking first before he's trying to dance up on this female? Where's the respect then y'know? It should go both ways. Overall, the sentiment of the blog post is right on though.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on that. But the issue is...in today's clubs and parties and lounges...the question isn't always needed. A lot of times you will see a guy walk up and start dancing with a female and I guess the question is just automatically insinuated. If females didn't like these turn of events from guys asking...they should make a point to stop and tell him to ask her. I've been told to ask before...and I asked and we began dancing. Thanks though.
ReplyDeleteI disagree however I understand. No one person's behavior excuses another persons. Also I dont think u are really aware of how often us women have had to deal with guys like this. More often than not, at least where I'm from, we arent rude to a guy we're turning down from fear that he will flip out and our safety is in jeopardy.
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