"Black coffee no sugar no cream, that's the type of girl I need down on my team" ~ Heavy D
I remember writing poetry about this, giving presentations about this, discussions, debates, and just historical enlightening moments. And end of the day....its Twitter that made me realize a lot of things.
I can't count the many times I have seen dark skin females angry because someone told them they were cute for a dark skin girl. And I see their point entirely. I don't see shade of brown when I see a black women. Either I see something that goes with my preferences or I don't. Yet not everyone sees things that way. I can even sense the anger dark skin women feel. Then I see it carry over to people stating their preference. They are tired of dealing with this stereotype of dark skin females being less attractive, they when someone merely states their preference being for light skin females, that same anger comes out. When in reality it shouldn't. I spoke on this with someone the other day and she made a wonderful point. If a man comes to a dark skin woman and says his preference is for dark skin women....she's happy and feels special. That same man goes to her and says his preference is for light skin women, and she may be ready to start world war three in a grocery store. Why? She feels that pain of being put down again...and I don't blame her for it, but at the same time she is confused. That man, like everyone else has a preference (mine being towards dark skin females, but I am open to all ;-)), and she might have a thing for light skin dudes, does that mean I should be angry and upset over it? No. Its her choice. Especially when I love it when I hear females talk about dark skin guys with bald heads. I'm loving it lol. After growing up hating my complexion because of all the jokes and teasing...dark skin brothers are getting love no a days :-).
So ladies...light skin and dark skin....brothers.....light skin and dark skin....ignorant comments are not needed. A person can be beautiful no matter the shade. We all seen ugliness on both ends. Saying your preference is one thing...idiotic comments are another. But when you hear the preferences of another...why get upset? They like what they life. Plus, for me...you guys know I love my black coffee (even though in real life I hate actual black coffee...I need milk and sugar darnit lol).
Understood. I stand by my belief that those dark skinned girls who take offense only do so bcuz they arent on the receiving end of the preference. Everyone has the right to not be attracted to certain physical appearances... the same way lots of women only like men taller than them or muscular or light skinned pretty boys. I dont believe this has anything to do with putting someone down.
ReplyDeleteOh no, I agree completely with you. But I am saying they feel this way more so because of the oppression they felt and had to deal with from prior experiences. You tell a light skin female that you like dark skin females and she will brush it off. You tell a tall guy you like short guys and he will brush it off. Why? Because they know people love them for that and they can move on easily to get someone else.
ReplyDeleteSorry I don't buy the "oppression" theory. Sounds to me like more of an excuseto be offended than an explanation. I'm clearly not dark skinned but I stand by my belief. I've been teased as a child too but I know the difference between a kid's ignorance and an adult's preference. To me, that's what it boils down to. I can't roll with you on this one.
ReplyDeleteYeah...but then again that's like the white man saying he doesn't buy racism. Its easier to come from the position you're in and say it doesn't stem from that...when I think it really does. Do you disagree with the points I made about the tall guy and the light skin woman in the last comment or no?? Because those points say a lot.
ReplyDeleteI dont think the white man & racism example fits bcuz i didnt claim dark skinned ppl didnt have those issues as children. Just bcuz they may have a complex about their skin color doesnt give diff meaning to someone's words about their preferences. No i dont agree with the points u made about light skinned women and tall men.
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