You Want A Map To The Maze?: The Obama Dream

Barack Obama.....President of the United States of America....why was he voted President? Well there are many reasons from this. From....him being a Democrat, to him being black, to people believing in his views and opinions, and to the fact that he is a great speaker and sounds very articulate. But what's my point here?? Well we could talk about the little boy that came from a simple life to becoming a leader of a country and an idol. A man that has set new trends and changed lives just from him being able to run for president. We could talk about a man that is head of his family while running around the world to take care of business (but then again we are on the outside looking in). But what is this about?? Well you guys know I rather talk about something that hits home more than anything else. So this is about the females always saying they want a guy like Obama.

What is my issue with this exactly? Well there are two kinds of females that I have a problem with saying this...the rest are allowed to say whatever they feel like lol. 

1. The females that say she wants a Man like Obama, then goes for guys like Daquan down the block.
2. The females that say she wants a Man like Obama, but have nothing to offer a man like that.

Now the first is the female that I have partially mentioned before. She's the one that say she wants a Mr. Right, but actually goes for Mr. Quick Fix (not even Mr. Right Now because even he's too good. She just needs someone to be with). She can talk about ALLLLLLLL she wants in life and what kind of guy she thinks is perfect.....wants to marry.....want to spend the rest of her life with.......but who is she dating? The guy that beats her. The guy that cheats on her. The guy that lies and disrespects her. Now yes....we all lie sooner or later (male n female), but she's going for the compulsive liar.

The second female....she's can be categorized in many ways. She could be the hoodrat that's having sex with the DJ for him to play her jam throughout the night. She could the average female with nothing going for herself...just a part time job with no realistic goals. Or the ones with a good career and thinks she's running the world, but then again her personality and traits horrible. And finally the female that looks beautiful but thinks it being the only thing going for her can get any man. All of these females ask for a Man like Obama that has a great personality and honorable in many ways (from the outside looking in). So what makes her even think she can be with him? It goes to my theory of dating lol.

In my mind, it is a fact that Females always want to date up...but Men are good with dating down. What do I mean?? Am I saying he is a better person?? Blah blah blah?? lol. My point is based on position in life and what that person can offer. Females...even if they don't have what they want in the man....will still request it. Can't count the times I have seen females ask for a guy with a job....but don't have one. A car....but taking the bus. Own apartment....but lives with parents. And so on and so forth. Men...we care less about the material stuff and the "what can she do for me" stuff and more about the female. Yes, it can be solely on looks at times, but that's sometimes. Guys will in a way....."settle".

But why do these females dream and dream about a Man like Obama? Because real Men with such success in life don't want females like these.

So ladies, before you go around lying to yourselves and saying you want Obama, but really want Tayshawn....or just another hood chic on the block......be honest with yourself and those around you.

Your Start Was Your High Point: The Realization

So...this morning I saw the status of a friend of mine (Stanley Fritz),

"Att women of facebook, the average black male between the ages of 21-26 does not make enough money to own a car and an apartment, money does not grow on tree's, its just not realistic. that would be like me asking for a woman that wasn't crazy."

I won't say what kind of position I am to this statement, but its the honest truth that a lot of people graduating college have these things and be in a position to afford it. Graduating college...you're almost guaranteed to be in debt. So this means that you will be paying off school loans while trying to find a job in your field (which is not guaranteed at all) and then some people end up just getting a job to keep money in their pockets while searching. So there you have it...its known...that after graduating college...just having a degree does not mean you will have a college. It's the furthest thing from the truth. And some positions, they might see you as "overqualified" and going to cost too much to pay when they can get someone in high school.

There there are the people out there that have a car and apartment.....but never paid for it. Those people aren't even allowed to speak on this. That's like having your parents pay in cash your entire college bill...but when you're friends talk about how hard it is paying for college....and you jump in and agree. WTF?!?!?! But we can also talk about the people that have the car and apartment...but don't make enough to afford it..and will go on to be in even more debt than they are and can't get out. Missing bill payments on things. Can't maintain the life or image they're putting out there....the list goes on. A car and an apartment is a financial investment not everyone is ready for. I know I'm not. So I'm waiting.

When I restated this (giving him his credit) someone told me they wouldn't date a guy that didn't have those things. That they were tired of dating guys that only had potential and wanted someone already established (she had her reasons). And as much as I respect her opinion and reason for it....I have to say......Hells No lol. Most of my life I was poor, no car, no apartment, but I was working towards something. So being where I am today, I look at the females I've dated beforehand and thank them. Thank them for seeing the potential in me. For seeing that I was smart and that my material things would come in the future and were not an issue now. I thank them for seeing past what so many females are asking for right now. The same man said something today that is going to be something like a motto to me. He stated:

"If you're not willing to ride on the bus with me now, I don't want you when I have my Maserati."

 And I am feeling him on this so hard body. I been thinking about going on dates using the cab service I normally use in Michigan, but honestly...screw that....what's so bad about the bus. You like me? You respect me? You think we have something going? Then lets be on that bus together. Hand and hand. Keep it real. I don't want some female that's too good to be seen on a bus with her man. I need a down to earth woman. Furthermore...when females tell me they can't talk to me because of my lack of a car or ask me "You're joking right"...then I thank God actually. I thank him for pointing out what kind of female she was and that I shouldn't be talking to her.

Sometimes its not where they are in life...but where they're going. A guy can have all the money in the world right now....but not have a long term plan and end up poor. What will you do then?? Look at drug dealers and the females attracted to them...you think his money will last?? Make smart decisions people.

Maybe This Maze Isn't For You: The Pre-Nup

This has been a talk I have had a couple times lately with females and it seems as majority of females are against signing it and wont or against it, but still will sign it to get it out of the way. My thing......Sign That Pre-Nup lol. I won't get married without one. You can say I value money over the relationship, you can say I am thinking about the marriage breaking up before it even starts...I care not. What do I care about?? The fact that there are so many females out there that are hungry to get some money....the fact that there are times a female can become bitter and want to screw someone over. And I know what you're thinking.....why not just find a better wife??? Well its not that easy. You can't always tell a female is after money...and you can't know when a female is going to feel bitter and want revenge. That stuff is unpredictable. That is why there is a pre-nup.

Its like insurance for people that want to protect their assets. Just like health insurance is to protect people from paying tons of money in the situation that something did happen.....and death insurance is made to cover the loss of a person with money going to whomever....or even dental plans are for assuring that if something happened with my teeth or a situation popped up...I wouldn't have to worry about a thing. So what is wrong with me saying to you:

"Baby, in the slim situation in which we break up....we should make an agreement from now that we won't become vengeful and want to hurt the other by taking away the things that are theirs"?

 Now you're thinking....well in a marriage everything is shared and an "Us" thing. Lies lol. We all have our own personal things and space. If I have golf clubs, can you use them? Yes. By all means. But its a known fact that those golf clubs are mine and I am allowing you to use them. I don't expect to walk into the bathroom to use your makeup without asking....why? Because its YOUR makeup lol. It is your belonging. Your property. So yes, marriage is about US....but that doesn't mean we don't have personal things.

Like if I am the bread winner and you are a stay at home mother.....Oh Hells Yes being a stay at home mother is a full time job in itself, BUT that does not mean that the money I was bringing in should be split in half after we break up and be given to you. That is crazy. Just as bad as that alimony stuff. I want to find the judges that came up with these things and fight them in a back alley. No way.....No how...am I just going to give my belongings to a female that I am no longer with. You look at stars that pay millions to ex wives or have to come out of pocket because of this stuff. Will I have millions? Don't know yet. But I'll be damned if my money goes to her.

Think about this.....we are happily married and living a great life....then just because we break up and leave one another I have to continually pay for you to keep living the life that you was use to during the marriage.....or having to give up 50% of everything... WHY?? We are no longer together. You shouldn't get to have that life anymore.

Look Again And Hope: People That Lie To Themselves

Over the years I have come to know one thing....it's the people lie to themselves. Some on purpose....Some are just in such a deep lie that they don't realize it. But who is this about right now? Not the people that think they are in a position in life where they really in fact are not, this is more about the people that think one way about themselves.........but its a lie.....then they talk about others like themselves. Who should we cover first? How about we go in on the guys......

As guys...we are required to have some level of "Thirst". If you don't know what that is.....think bout......the things we do as men to get the female we want. Now why is it that there are guys coming at other guys about being thirst and wanting a female too much?? That is mind blowing. Even though you didn't do what he did, you have done something else. No matter how good looking or famous the person. You hear about artists all the time now paying females for sex. What do you call that?? Prostitution....aka....guys being guys. Sending a female messages to say hello....its what we do. She don't reply...hit her another day or something. It's only pushing it when he contacts her many times to no reply.

Then what about guys then get on other guys that are "broke". Wait....last time I checked....having a gold chain did not mean you had wealth. So what....because you have more baby money than another man you are allowed to call him broke and laugh at him?? Chances are you were in the same situation and you're money isn't stable. Real men that are blue collar and business men don't go around and get on guys that are not in the same position they are in. We just thank God for the position we are in. Pointless and idiotic. Especially when you both live in the same area. You won't see guys that were broke and reach a level of wealth still live in the projects. So that must mean your money is still pocket money. Get some assets, insurance, and investments, then you can say you are somewhere where you can even speak on the matter.

Females.....I can not count how many times I have seen females call one another hoes or sluts........but do the same exact thing. Now this is mind blowing lol. If you're going to call someone else "ghetto", a "slut", a "bird", or any other name that is to put down others.....at least be in a position where you can talk. And I don't mean just having money. There are money hungry hookers that make more than me in a week....BUT...the character they have is immature and idiotic. So they aren't allowed to talk about others. I have a friend in Texas that's also a stripper and she will tell me she made a thousand in a night. I'll sit there and look like......DAMN lol.....but does it give her the right to attack others? No. What if she was the same kind of person she was making fun of? Then she would be idiotic also. But she doesn't. I have never heard her once get on other females or guys about money or the things they do. Being a hypocrite is worse than being the person you're making fun of. Especially if its about something that you fit exactly. No point getting on others in the same position as you, but then giving yourself the benefit of the doubt on some stupid reason. Childish.

Basically.....before you try to get on anyone and talk about others....KNOW yourself. Analyze yourself and get the opinion of yourself from others. I love negative feedback that's constructive. Why? Because it gives me something to look at about myself. Someone called me cocky the other day....but also knows that I'm a down to earth and humble guy. So what was the conclusion after speaking? I can be cocky at times in the way that I am excessively confident, but for the most part...I'm just confident in who I am and what I can do.

We All Know The Phrase By Now

Some Decisions You Make Are Debatable: The Rude Approach

I have friends and associates from all different walks of life and opinions. And one of these people agreed to "Don't act like you never tried to dance up on a girl at a party and she gave you that ugh face". Has that happened to me before? Yeah...it has for most guys. But the thing is I can walk off and say forget it. But do I blame the guys that will yell at her or talk bad about her?? Not One Bit

Why?? Because she had no need to be rude to others. She could have simple said, "Excuse, I don't want to dance with you" or "No thank you, I am not in the mood". How hard is that? Its not. But she's a rude person that believes actions like that are warranted when a guy tried to dance with her. Yes...her body. But what happened to treating other the way you want to be treated? Bet that same girl would be upset if she walked up to a guy she thought was cute and he gave her that face. Bet she would have a lot to say about it also lol. But then she will go and continue to do it to others. Why? I feel its an ego and self esteem thing. Just like they say bullies pick on people because they have self esteem issues, I say the same for females like that.

Lets think about this now...later that night or another time...her exact words will be "You should have seen all the guys trying to get at me" or "I have all the guys chasing me and I don't want them". Its phrase and words like these that she uses to fill her mind up with the idea that all guys want her and she can do whatever she likes because he is "Bad".....then on the other hand she could be using it to build herself up. Girls that act like this....I actually want for them to go to guys and it happens to them. I personally do not feed egos. I see a female walking around like she thinks she's "It"....and I just ignore her. Not going to add to her ego at all. That's not my job.

I'm approached many times by females I am not attracted to, don't want for some reason, and even gay guys. What do I do? I hold a conversation and let them down easily. No point in being rude to someone just because they were attracted to you. Especially when we all try to do things to look more appealing to the opposite sex. So if I see a female walking down the street...a guy walks up to her to talk to her....she "Plays him" or is rude for no reason at all.....I don't blame him and won't stop him when he tells her about herself. Won't try to calm him down. And won't do anything but laugh. Even my sister and past girlfriends of mine...I will tell them to be nice and say "No thank you" or something that lets them down without being rude. Because guys will hit females if they are disrespectful. Not saying its right, just saying its reality.

So Ladies, next time a guy tries to talk to you or dance at a party....be nice. Or if he gets on you and start yelling, I will not blame him. Whether family, special female, or close friend. I don't approve of rude behavior that is uncalled for.

What's Your Goal Here: The Delusions Some People Have

So the other day the trending topic on twitter was.... "100FactsAboutMe". It stayed up there for days also lol. Rare to see that. But anyways......one of my followers posted that she didn't know where she was headed in life and didn't have a plan.....but knew it would mean a lot of money. So where do I start??

Well....my first reaction was...0_0 "What the hell" lol. Next came...."Is that a joke" 0_o. Then....this is a confused little girl lol.

Why all that from one tweet? Because to me she is delusional like many others. Lets call these people....Lodalps (Lets Only Dream About Life People, the pronunciation varies lol). These are the people that expect great things in life, but dont work for it. I cant even count the amount of times a pot head has told me their plan to end up rich. And as funny as it may be coming from them, at least they had an idea of what they were going to do to better themselves. An idea is better than a dream. Yes, a dream can be where the idea comes from, but if it stays only a dream....then what's the point?? So many people think they will be great, famous, rich, or have this huge affect on the world. But when you sit down and think about it....there is a rule...and exceptions...like anything else.

What's the rule? Most people in the world will only end up being low income or lower middle class. Bad things? No. You might be happy and doing what you love. But.....this is the majority. The rule also states most will die as people that were not world famous. And like most.....no big affect on the world population (outside of the butterfly affect lol). Will I be one of the people in this rule? Who knows. I'm working not to be though. But that leads us to the exceptions. These are the people everyone claims to say that they can do it also....

They look at Mark Zuckerberg and think they all can be him. When they don't know that he was already writing programs from high school and worked hard enough to go to Harvard. What happened then? He worked his but off to get where he is. Some people talk about being like Bill Gate....he also went to Harvard and was working on his craft from high school. People act as if the once richest man in the world and the youngest billionaire just fell down and landed on money. These people are the exceptions to the rules or being rich and there are stars that agents fall upon and cast into big movies, and they take off.....but again....exceptions to the rules.

I am all for anyone having a want to be rich....but to say you have that in mind but no plan or idea of how to make money in life.....idiotic. And same goes for the females that make it their goal to marry a celebrity, a rich man, or prince/king. How many are there in the world? How many females are there in the world? So what are the odds he likes who you as a person enough to go on a date much less even meet you and you stand out to him? #Delusional.

You want riches, wealth, fame, life long impact on the world......do something for it to happen. My finances are no where where I want them to be....but that's ok...because I'm working on that.

And Every Time You Give A Name That Doesn't Fit This Rule....You Prove My Point

How Important Is Your Next Decision: What Means The Most To Me

Recently I had a debate with some of my followers on twitter on the matter of Respect. Oddly enough, most did not view the concept of Respect the way I did. For some reason people see Respect as being a common courtesy. But to me, if you give out Respect to everyone, then that dilutes (water down lol) the value of your Respect. Think about it...if I send a good morning text to everyone in my phone book every morning, then people will expect it and its just something that I do. Not something they care about much, just something I do. Then what is the outcome...? The value of my good morning text loses value and richness. It is no longer something special. Its the same with Respect. If I have Respect for every single person I see and meet, then that means that having my Respect isn't a special thing. Why? Because everyone else has it.

Now do I think you should disrespect others? No. Not at all. People should be treated the way that you want to be treated and given common courtesies...BUT.....Respect is not one of them. For me to Respect you, you must earn it in some way. Whether by the way you think, the things you're doing with your life, or even just how you go about things. Actions and Train of Thought are more important things than people let on sometimes. So I hold my Respect very highly. And refuse to just give it to anyone. Other things I'm big on....Loyalty and Trust. Maybe its because I was raised on mob movies as a little kid instead of cartoon movies and family movies. Single digit age range and learning certain values of life from Carlito telling his cousin in Carlito's Way that "A favor will kill you faster than a bullet" or the intensity behind Sonnie telling the bikers in A Bronx Tale "Now yous can't leave". Those are the things that made me who I am today in many ways.

My Loyalty...is golden. Once you have me on your team, I'm there until the end. Whatever you're in need of, I will try my very best to get it for you. Thinking about it, I'm like a dog in many ways. You feed a dog and he will always stay at your side. No matter what happens to that dog....if you're the person feeding him...he will be open to losing his life for you. And that is me. What do you feed me? Your Loyalty. What do I picture when I say Loyalty? A king and his knights. Who's the king? Well this role is interchangeable. When I am thinking about who I have Loyalty for...I'm the knight...and in reverse for those with Loyalty for me. I don't think there will ever be a way to explain what Loyalty means to me. But one thing is for sure, those that call me their brother or close friend....they know how Loyal I am. And know what I would go through to be at their side.

Trust, this is something deep for me. I never saw myself being able to trust people. Mob movie rule number one....never trust people lol. I use to think about my mother trying to kill me at times with the food she made. Crazy? Yeah, I guess. But I have always been a paranoid person. Then more than now. But I trusted nothing around me. Until you've had people running around 40 deep (no exaggeration) looking for you....people following you from class to class to know your schedule.....or even being "Marked" by local gang members...then you don't know why my paranoia was there. But these things happened to me, and the mob movies prepared me, and being paranoid saved my life. So as the situations arose, I knew what to do and made it out with only a hip injury. My Trust, when it comes to females is pretty low also. Its another thing that you have to earn with me. At the very most nowadays, I give a short level of trust to people...and they build/destroy it from there.

I guess its a no brainer why I was called General by every single person that knew me (outside of my teaching experience) from the end of my high school years to the end of my college career. Yes that includes many of my professors lol. And anyone that didn't call me such.....were dis-communicated expeditiously. So if you ever have the honor of being Respected by my, Trusted by me, and having my Loyalty....then there is nothing you can't ask for and nothing you can't achieve. Because I will be there to push and support you.

My favorite General:

 The Honorable General Robert E. Lee

Fought for the wrong side, but did it well

Outlasting several Union generals during the Civil War

And became a known icon for the Civil War